How to Give a Neck Massage With These Simple Steps

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The benefits of massage are immeasurable when it comes to not only defying the ageing process but to promoting continual relief from tension, aches, pains and stiffness.  Massage improves physiological and psychological responses. For instance, it will relax, soothe, stimulate, regenerate, boost and benefit all areas of mind and body. A lot of us have stiff neck that gets a lot of pressure and that's the reason why it's good to learn how to give a neck massage to your beloved ones.

Benefits of a Massage

Basically, massage is the most positive health-bearing harbinger of all practices. The art of kneading, rubbing, pummelling, stroking, squeezing, tapping, and manipulation of muscles, joints, connective tissues, ligaments, tendons and the skin in general aids the bodies’ ability to stimulate deep blood vessels. This grand stimulation treatment effectively promotes and almost instantaneously improves blood circulation. That in turn allows for easier transportation of all necessary vitamins, minerals, proteins, salts and water. That’s not to mention life bearing oxygen, to all parts of the body. We all know the adage, ‘healthy body healthy mind’ and this is indeed true. Massage relaxes muscles and therefore mind.  Thus, performing massage onto any part of the body to relieve dis-ease will help with mood and make anyone a little bit happier.

Massage benefits

Improves Body’s Vitality

Recurring massage will continually lift, firm, tone, balance and improve all underlying processes of the body so as to stimulate and increase healthy movement in all areas. It will relieve tightness, enhance suppleness, increase vitality, ease headache pain, improve mood, and give an energy boost. 

Brings About Emotional Uplifting

The miracle of massage is that the deep subtle nuances of the human body are awoken and uplifted when gentle friction is activated by way of hands connecting and embrocating any part of the flesh. It doesn’t matter whether it is self-applied or delivered by another human being.

Detoxifies Body

By utilizing massage, you’ll encourage the breaking down of waste by-products which build up within the systems of the body. In addition to that, you’ll increase good blood circulation which can only have a positive knock-on effect to your total well-being.

Relieves Tension

When massage is effected in a concentrated area it can bring huge relief to the recipient. One of the major causes of dis-ease is the stress and tension experienced around the neck and shoulders. Therefore, this is an area to focus on for bringing some natural respite and liberation.

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Steps on How to Give a Neck Massage

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Here’s a quick ‘how-to’ for performing a neck massage to any friend, family member or work colleague. It’s pretty simple and doesn’t require a lot of time to learn at all!

Step 1

Have your recipient either sitting on a stool, a low-back chair whereby you can easily reach the back and neck, or on a plump cushion on the ground.

Step 2

Ensure your recipient is wearing a light piece of clothing, either a vest or non-restrictive garment. Long hair should be tied up so as the neck is exposed. Remove all the jewelry (necklaces and earrings) as well.

Step 3

If your friend or whoever it is that your massaging is up for it, burn some relaxing incense and/or essential oil. It’ll bring about an overall relaxing mood.

Step 4

Play some relaxing/meditative music in the background. I’m sure that can be enjoyable for both of you.

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Step 5

Wash and warm your hands before applying firstly light strokes to the back of the neck. Cold hands can make the whole procedure unpleasant for the recipient, so that’s quite important.

Step 6

Take 3-5 minutes to continually warm the neck and upper shoulders with light strokes, using the fingers, negotiating where any knots or tight spots of tension are. Take your time as there’s no need to rush. Avoid applying too much pressure too soon, gently increase compression as the muscles of the neck and upper back become warmer.

Step 7

When you have found the tight spots, then apply some added pressure here (utilise massage stroke techniques as listed below). Give gentle gliding strokes along the trapezius muscle of the neck (to both sides). Applying pressure will enable the breaking down of the knots of tension.

Step 8

Ensure you apply balanced technique/stroke and pressure to both sides of neck, shoulders, upper back. You need to keep it balanced.

Step 9

Increase application of massage into any knots of tension by utilising your thumbs. Rest your thumbs into the tension spots and keep your other fingers resting each side as stabilisers. Work your thumbs in gentle circular motion aiding the breaking down of tension. Repeat action for a few minutes until you feel the hard spots releasing.

Step 10

Once the tension spots have softened a little begin to gently glide your hands (as if in a smoothing motion) away from the troubled zones, as if in a ‘brushing away’ action, effectively ridding the area of the tension and wiping it out to the edges of the shoulders.

Step 11

You can work on each shoulder individually by standing to the side of your recipient and again proceeding with rhythmic stroking/sliding of your hands. Aim to ‘draw out’ the tension, sweeping it into the atmosphere. Using both palms of hands, place one on the front of the shoulder (clavicle) and the other to the back-shoulder blade (scapula). That’ll give a broader even rotation of pressure. Once you have completed one side, apply to the opposite side with equal content

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Tips for Giving a Good Neck Massage

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    Avoid pressing too hard on any of the bony areas.
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    Remember you can use all parts of your hands to effect differing amounts of pressure and scale of stroke/glide.  Use your fingertips, palms, heels of hands and even knuckles (for getting into tight pressure points).
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    Communicate with your recipient to allow for feedback as to whether you are applying correct pressure in the affected areas.
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    Generally, a 10 – 15-minute neck massage will help give relief, and this can be repeated two to three times a week, lessening as the tension releases and ease of movement is reinstated.

Massage Techniques You Could Use

When it comes to massaging, most of us really have no idea what we’re doing. It’s always good to know what massaging techniques you can try to improve the overall experience. Trying these techniques, definitely helps to relieve tension in muscles better. Therefore, worth a read!

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A rhythmic stroking/sliding of the hands – normally toward the heart. The word itself means ‘’to touch lightly on”. The technique is very soothing and is usually used for the beginning or the end of the massage. All you need to do is stroke your palms in circular motion.


A gentle circular lifting and squeezing – helps to eliminate waste products from the muscles. The applied pressure is usually very deep, and it quickly heats up the muscles. You can use your thumbs, fingers and palms to achieve those results.


Rhythmic tapping with the fingers / short rapid movement – best performed on areas of the body where there is no bone protrusion. There are five types of tapotement: cupping, tapping, beating, hacking and slapping. For cupping, all you should do is make a cup with your hand and tap on those muscles. For tapping – use fingertips, beating – softly hit the area with your fists, hacking – use the edges of your hands on the pinky side to apply pressure to your skin and slapping – gently slap with your fingertips.


Gentle lifting of a concentrated part of skin then letting go, sliding back through the fingers. If you do it right, you should be able to pick up tissue between the thumb and other fingers. That’ll be quick and brief. Use your both hands to exert the movement, one hand at a time. However, don’t grip too hard as it might be unpleasant.


Utilised on the back and sides of the body particularly the ribcage. The technique is particularly relaxing and very soft.


Now that you know how to give a neck massage, you should probably get going! Make someone happy today by relieving some of their neck stiffness. That cannot hurt, definitely. In case you have questions, please comment below, I’ll do my best to answer them. However, do remember that when it comes to massaging, it’s also very important to know how recipient feels, what he/she likes and make the most out of it. At the end of the day, a light touch on someone’s skin is always a very relaxing and fulfilling experience.


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